Sthal: The hidden hardships of arranged Indian weddings

Marital unions in India are commonly depicted as vibrant, lavish festivities where families unite to uphold customs. Yet, for numerous women, the journey of an arranged marriage can be profoundly unsettling, driven by societal pressures and patriarchal norms. The Marathi-language film Sthal: A Match

reveals this often-overlooked aspect of Indian nuptials, providing a candid perspective on the humiliations that women and their families endure during the process of finding a suitable match.

sheds light on this lesser-seen side of Indian weddings, offering an unfiltered look at the indignities faced by women and their families during the matchmaking process.

centers on Savita, a young woman who dreams of continuing her education and forging a career. Unfortunately, her ambitions are eclipsed by her father’s persistent quest to arrange her marriage. Daulatrao Wandhare, a cotton farmer facing financial difficulties, is resolute in his pursuit of a suitable husband for his daughter, all while contending with the struggles of his farming life. To Daulatrao, securing a favorable matrimonial alliance holds as much significance as obtaining a good price for his harvest.

follows the story of Savita, a young woman with dreams of pursuing higher education and building a career. However, her aspirations are overshadowed by her father’s relentless efforts to find her a husband. Daulatrao Wandhare, a struggling cotton farmer, is determined to secure a good match for his daughter while grappling with the challenges of his livelihood. For Daulatrao, a favorable marriage alliance is as important as getting a fair price for his crops.

emphasizes the degradation and objectification faced by many women. Its realism is amplified by a cast of debut actors, all selected from the very village where the film was made. Nandini Chikte, portraying Savita, gives a compelling performance that has garnered her numerous awards.

focuses on the humiliation and objectification that many women endure. The film’s authenticity is further enhanced by its cast of first-time actors, all chosen from the same village where the movie was shot. Nandini Chikte, who plays Savita, delivers a powerful performance that has earned her multiple accolades.

establishes the mood for the narrative. In a dream-like scenario, Savita questions a potential suitor, humorously flipping conventional gender roles. Accompanied by her female family members, she observes the anxious young man awkwardly handling drinks. Yet, this amusing scene is fleeting, as Savita is suddenly awakened and informed to get ready for another round of men arriving to evaluate her as a prospective wife.

In actuality, the scenario is markedly different. Clad in a sari and perched on a small stool, Savita sits with her gaze downcast, enduring a flood of inquiries from the potential groom’s family. They question her about her name, education, interests, and even her readiness to work on a farm. After the interrogation, the men retreat outside to deliberate on her physical attributes. Remarks about her complexion and stature expose the superficial metrics by which she is evaluated. In spite of her qualifications and dreams, Savita is diminished to an object of examination, her value assessed by capricious criteria.

In reality, the dynamic is starkly different. Savita is dressed in a sari and seated on a small stool, her eyes lowered, as she faces a barrage of questions from the prospective groom’s family. They interrogate her about her name, education, hobbies, and even her willingness to work on a farm. Once the questioning ends, the men step outside to discuss her physical appearance. Comments about her skin tone and height reveal the shallow criteria by which she is judged. Despite her qualifications and aspirations, Savita is reduced to an object of scrutiny, her worth determined by arbitrary standards.

In an interview, Nandini Chikte shared how emotionally demanding it was to enact Savita’s path. “Even though it was a role, I experienced the anger and humiliation for Savita,” she expressed. “It was discouraging to witness how her aspirations were disregarded, while the potential groom never faced equivalent examination.”

, the narrative also tackles the widespread problem of dowry, a tradition that persists in India notwithstanding its illegal status for more than sixty years. The dowry system frequently imposes a heavy financial strain on the bride’s family, with parents often resorting to drastic measures to satisfy the groom’s family’s expectations. In Sthal

, Daulatrao is depicted attempting to sell his land to raise money for his daughter’s wedding, despite farming being his sole livelihood. This portrays the grim reality where families frequently accumulate significant debts to arrange a marriage, potentially leading to the threat of violence related to dowry further down the line.

Filmmaker Jayant Digambar Somalkar found his inspiration for Sthal

from his personal experiences. Raised alongside two sisters and numerous cousins, he directly observed the matchmaking rituals. He remembers witnessing these practices without questioning them as a youngster, but his perspective shifted in adulthood. The pivotal moment occurred in 2016, when he went with a male cousin to meet a potential bride. Seeing the young woman seated and responding to queries about her looks and background unsettled him. “The focus on her height and skin tone felt dehumanizing,” Somalkar noted. Motivated by his then-fiancée, now wife, he chose to delve into the topic through his films.

from his own life experiences. Growing up with two sisters and several cousins, he witnessed the matchmaking process firsthand. He recalls observing these rituals without questioning them as a child but began to see them differently as an adult. The turning point came in 2016, when he accompanied a male cousin to meet a prospective bride. Watching the young woman sit on a stool and answer questions about her appearance and background left him uncomfortable. “The discussion about her height and skin color felt dehumanizing,” Somalkar said. Encouraged by his fiancée, now his wife, he decided to explore the subject through his filmmaking.

is not the initial Indian film to address this topic. Throughout the years, both Bollywood and regional films have brought forth various narratives about arranged marriages. The widely watched Netflix series Indian Matchmaking

is not the first Indian film to tackle this subject. Over the years, Bollywood and regional cinema have produced numerous stories about arranged marriages. The popular Netflix series Indian Matchmaking

Somalkar asserts that his film provides a more realistic viewpoint. “The everyday reality for many Indians differs greatly from mainstream media portrayals,” he stated. “For families in rural and low-income areas, the task of finding a suitor for their daughters often seems daunting. Marriage is perceived as a means to uphold the family’s honor, prompting parents to make significant sacrifices to meet this societal duty.”

aims to shed light on the challenges encountered by women such as Savita, Sthal

urges audiences to rethink entrenched customs. It scrutinizes the objectification of women under the guise of matrimony and the societal pressures that place marriage above educational and career aspirations.

challenges viewers to reconsider deeply ingrained traditions. It questions the objectification of women in the name of marriage and the societal pressures that prioritize marriage over education and career aspirations.

Somalkar hopes the film will spark meaningful conversations. “One film cannot change society overnight, but it can start a dialogue,” he said. “I want people to think about the impact of these practices on women and their families. It’s time to move away from treating marriage as the ultimate goal for a young woman.”

Through its poignant storytelling and authentic performances, Sthal

serves as a powerful critique of societal norms that perpetuate gender inequality. It offers a voice to women like Savita, whose stories are often overlooked, and calls for a shift in attitudes toward marriage, education, and women’s agency in India.

While change may be slow, films like Sthal

play an important role in challenging the status quo and inspiring audiences to imagine a more equitable future.

By William Brown

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